, like, “a guy told me he was looking for a girlfriend by next year so he’d have someone to split rent with.” Then there was the charmer who told his date about the time he “got wasted, peed and mopped it up with his clothes, and then wore them.” Um, yeah., we’d like to assume you know better than to make mistakes like these.
Still, navigating the world of online dating can definitely be tricky—what kind of message is clever, but not creepy?
What the hell are you supposed to say about yourself in your profile? [pagebreak] OUT-OF-TOWN AND OUT OF TOUCH The scenario: “A guy sent me a message saying that he wanted to meet up for a drink, but when I asked when he was free, he said he was ‘going out of town’ for the next two weeks and that we should schedule something after.” — Andrea, 31 The problem..the solution: If you tell a girl you’re “going out of town,” she’s going to assume you’re busy dating other women.
By the time your date comes around, she’ll already have lost interest or have found someone more attentive.
A good rule of thumb: if you aren’t available for a date within 7 days of sending the message, don’t send it.
Women are easily scared away online, so you should avoid saying anything remotely controversial or predatory.
Stick to neutral subjects — like mentioning a common ground you share based on something you read in her profile.
Unfortunately, you are now having that heart-sinking feeling that what you once thought was strength is actually an over-inflated ego.
Sadly, dating a man with a big ego leaves you open for difficulties that you may not want to deal with in a relationship.